Do you worry that women find you too dorky? Too bald? Too awkward? Too fat? Too skinny? Too un-hip?
Guess what — that’s not what they CARE about.
That’s why they are better than us :)
I just discovered an amazing thing about the gap between what you hate about yourself and what you KNOW about yourself that makes you wildly attractive to women.
It’s pretty funny, really. Enjoy this…
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Adam, Thanks a million for putting things in such accurate perspective!
theirs a younger girl that i like very much and i didnt think that i had anything to offer her as she is very pretty but after seeing the video maybe there is
You made some good points, Adam. But, I still see many older men (>35 yrs. old) who are still unhappy/miserable and lousy with women. It is VERY sad.
It IS sad! And unnecessary! Guys spend thousands of hours getting better at forex trading or sales or their jobs — but they don’t put in the time to improve their social intelligence. There are paths that have been cleared for men. There are lessons that have been learned. There is a whole body of knowledge here. There is no excuse to live uninformed or uninspired. they are not only letting themselves down, they are letting women down. Let’s raise an army of great men!
Good video very insightful. I will add one aspect which I don’t think was touched on – when you get older you become more comfortable with yourself. If you’re not comfortable with yourself how can you expect a partner to be?
Roberto – you must remember that the pickup, seduction, call it what you want community hasn’t been ‘mainstream’ until the last few years. I would say that even now, if you’re not a big user of the internet you’d probably NOT encounter it. Having said that I believe it can be too easy when you’re older to be aware of changes which are needed but not actually expand your comfort zone to do so.
Adam – I agree 100% on the point about investing in improving social skills… there’s a colossal amount of useful information online.
I am 78 years old, my wife of 56 years died a year ago. I went looking for a woman on the internet, and met her, of the same age, looking for someone like me. We have a great deal in common, we can discuss our previous marriages and our adult chldren, we can talk about everything from politics to music, and eventually we will approach things sexual – but when we are each ready… She is smart, a professional musician and dresses well; I am intelligent, a retired professional and learned how to dress and present myself well as a young man. I am looking forward to these next years – particularly my 100th birthday with her !!
Brian – if that isn’t an inspiring story, I don’t know what it! I am obviously sorry for the loss of your wife, but you are a living demonstration that this is an ABUNDANT world we live in, and if we bring ourselves openheartedly, we can find love around the next corner — even if we are 78! Wow.
I have seen enough, in business, in love, in parenting to know that if you convince yourself that the world is scarce and stingy, the sand will run between your fingers and you will curse the gods.
But if you allow yourself to believe that possibilities are calling at every moment (which they are!!!) — you will unclench your fist and find gems sparkling in the palm of your hand.
You have found another gem.
God knows, with the internet – we are all connected now, and meeting has become so easy — you just have to do your homework and learn from those who have gone before, master verbal, body and social dynamics, refine, refine and refine — and keep at it — and you can create the life you genuinely want to create.
Unlike school, unlike work where you have a boss– in matters of love, the only one who can give a final NO to you — is you. Nobody else can stop your advance.
Thank you for your inspiration!
Adam
Adam, this is a very powerful message. You’ve found a niche in the “community” that’s as yet fairly unexplored, and vitaly important. Thanks.
Brilliant Adam. Yes, you are right. We focus on what we have lost as we age but in reality we have gained quite a bit. I think your material is not just about dating younger women but how to handle yourself and life as you age. Thank you for your excellent work.
Matt – that’s the secret right there. The Ageless Attraction Program is, at heart, about ratcheting up the 6 Key Attractor Areas of your life so high, that women will immediately see the difference. Not only between you before, but between you and other men. But the REAL prize is that by handling these 6 areas — you live a happy empowered life on your own terms as an advanced man.
The great women — well, that’s part of having the life you’ve always wanted. This is it, right? THIS is your life. You’ve got it a short while. Get all pistons running! – Adam
This is excellent Adam and thank you for putting so much hard work into this. I can already see the value of this and I haven’t even reached my 30’s yet. I think it is important for men of ALL ages to understand the power of living an inspired life. It’s never too late (or too early to start). I am excited about the upcoming release of your book.
Thank you man! This is my work. Living full out. Giving my best. Experiencing the best. And inspiring everyone in this community to live and give their best. Who wants to go out mediocre? No one! Sometimes we just need a boost and the right info! Rock on, Nick.
Thank you Adam. Your info gets my attention. I have a couple of questions.
First a little background. I’m divorced, I have no kids, not a traveler, work with troubled teens, I’m back in school at 40 to be a teacher, short on time with work and school, never had a “career”, have always made little money, no car, no house.
I can’t find anything particularly admirable about those things. Sure, it’s a nice footnote that I’m back in school at 40 and I always get an “aaaawwww that’s so nice” from women when I tell them I work with troubled kids, but I would not call that attraction, admiration or desire. Prospective high school teachers are not seen as hot commodities with women of any age as far as I’ve noticed. Yet, I know I’m a decent and solid man. I also know that knowing that means very little in terms of getting what you want when it comes to women. I feel very average. I’m stuck in how to get around this.
Also, my interpretation of what I’ve read/heard from you so far seems oriented towards men seeking committed relationships or/and deep connections. What if you’re at that stage where you honestly don’t want that now and just want to date freely or have more casual sexual relationships? Is your material appropriate for men like me who are in this category?
Al, you raise some great points. First, of course, every person is different — which is why — and sometimes it seems like a blessed miracle — there is someone for everyone. We’re all weird. And there’a a weirdo out there who will like us.
A theme that keeps coming to me is that there are two types of people — what a good friend of mine calls “Trailblazers” and “Stabilizers.” I fall into the trailblazers category, but about 3/4 of people are stabilizers — they make the mechanisms of society work. Teachers, engineers, nurses, doctors — make life possible.
In a recent article, the writer Joseph Epstein wrote:
Some years ago I read a brilliant essay called “Prosaics,” by Gary Saul Morson, a teacher of Russian literature at Northwestern University, in which he showed how Tolstoy believed in the prosaic life and Dostoyevsky in the dramatic.
Things happen to Tolstoy’s characters — they go to war, have vastly disruptive love affairs, suffer unexpected deaths — but they are most interesting in their ordinariness: a strong case in point is Natasha’s family, the Rostovs, in War and Peace. Her brother and father and mother, with their rich but normal passions, appetites and family loves, are people who gain moral stature through an endless series of small acts.
In Dostoyevsky, on the other hand, nothing is ordinary: passions turn into obsessions; gambling addicts and epileptics are at the center of things; men are beating horses to death on the Nevsky Prospect; poverty has wrenched people’s lives into little hells on earth. The question isn’t really who — Tolstoy or Dostoyevsky — is the greater novelist, for both are great, but which shows life as it is more truly is.
As Professor Morson puts it: “Dostoyevsky believed that lives are decided at critical moments, and he therefore described the world as driven by sudden eruptions from the unconscious. By contrast, Tolstoy insisted that although we may imagine our lives are decided at important and intense moments of choice, in fact our choices are shaped by the whole climate of our minds, which themselves result from countless small decisions at ordinary moments.” At some point in life, I think, one has to decide if one is, in one’s belief in the shape of his or her life, a Dostoyevskian or a Tolstoyian.
Sounds like you are a stabilizer, a Tolsoyan. There are PLENTY of women who find a nurturing man attractive. I might suggest looking at where in your life you are pushing yourself, pushing your edge — that “dangerous” edge. Any adventure? Contact sports? New skills that have edge? Women are definitely attracted to men who have an “edge” and what I call “electric contrast” — poet/boxer, schoolteacher/firefighter – etc. You might want to look at that if you want to widen your field.
But please – stay grounded in the depth of the “moral stature of small, ordinary acts” — there are women who admire you, and don’t worry about those who want the trailblazers.
The “dating” industry has created the illusion that any man can “have any woman at any time.” It aint’ so — find the ones who already like the kind of man you already are.