When creating an online profile and presenting the best version of yourself online, you must remember: “Out with the bad!” Survival Attractors help you, while Survival Weaknesses will leave you committing attraction suicide. Never project Survival Weaknesses. Do it in your profile, and you’re dead in the water.
We have all been beaten up by life. I myself spent years with someone who, even after I was out of the relationship, had convinced me that I was ugly, stupid and a failure in life. I honestly didn’t think anyone would ever want to go out with me, until I finally started dating other women again.
Fortunately, this is where the beating up stops for you – right here and right now. Make a promise to yourself: I will not include any self-denigration in my profile.
Self-denigration is charming if you’re Hugh Grant or Brad Pitt. It is also fine once you have established your authority and masculinity in person but it does not belong in your profile at all.
Also, take out any words that are qualifiers: “little” “small” “kind of” “sort of” “hope to”. You no longer hope, my friend, you plan. You inspire. You commit. You accomplish. You do. You are not a “hoper.” You are a “doer.” Here are good words to use, in their various forms:
Optimistic, Entrepreneurial, Motivated, Kind, Protective,
Loving, Warm, Steadfast, Unshakable
Loyal, Honest, Steady, Confident
Be forthright, be positive and be optimistic about your future. And be direct. You are creating a context of strength in your profile. You are establishing that you are the lion, not a sick, toothless pussycat. Later, when you start interacting with a woman, you can offer alluring vulnerabilities, but never up front.
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