This is part 2 of a 5-part series where I excerpt parts of my conversations with some of the top gurus, leaders and coaches in the Attraction and Dating community. I interview all of these guests in detail in the Erotic Mastery course.
Here I’m chatting with Neo Young of The Complete Lover System. Neo is a master practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic programming (NLP) and hypnotherapy. We’re discussing the “alpha male” quality that so many women desire and how that translates directly into the sexual experience.
Neo: Women want a man who is a leader, who when he walks into a room he commands respect. Along with that line, an alpha male, once he chooses her, once she’s with him, he will protect her with his life.
Adam: Guys might be thinking, “When do you really actuate that feeling?” I mean if you meet someone at a bar, are you already suggesting at that point you’re going to bring…?
Neo: Oh, I do. It’s very primal. It’s part of what I consider alpha male qualities – the level of possessiveness that you have with your woman. “I’m choosing you.”
That’s why women want to be taken. That’s why women choose ‘bad boys.’ What they really want is a bad boy who will love them deeply as well.
Adam: Alpha males… rather than “Will you choose me? Can I go out with you? Will you talk to me?” That whole sort of submissive stance kind of kills the erotic charge at the beginning.
Neo: So this translates directly into how you have sex with her, because women read into everything, basically how you do anything and how you do everything.
You’re going to be directing her in terms of what position you want her to get in next, or moving her this way…where you just know where to move her, where you know how to give her the most pleasure, where she surrenders to your direction.
This is very important, because it’s a circle. Anything that you develop in any of the stages and phases will increase your consciousness, distinction, and level that you can give your woman pleasure and orgasms.
So in terms of the attraction, like you mentioned earlier, really it’s like the first 15 minutes. You’re basically creating like this explosion where she’s like, “Whoa! This guy has some energy and has something to offer.”
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